"I don’t know if she ever noticed all the times that I’ve stared whenever she walked in the room. Her smile, her laughter, her vibrant energy- It makes my whole day. They say magic does not exist in the real world, but the way that she can brighten up the world with her presence is already magic to me. It’s her magic. I don’t know if she ever got to notice it, but I fell more deeply in love with every smile, laughter and energy that she brought in the room."
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You don’t see the way I look at you when you are not looking at me ~

You don’t see the way I look at you when you are not looking at me ~

You’re my only real friend, Let’s not ruin it. -Sally, The Art Of Getting By

This one’s a line from the movie we watched yesterday, The Art of Getting By. I don’t want to spoil the story (in case you haven’t watch it yet) so I’ll just focus on this line by Sally Howe. Looking at a boy-girl friendship.

Perhaps everyone of us has that one friend whom we can completely trust and be comfortable with. Someone we can talk to about anything, be it personal issues or just normal chit chats. Someone who accepts us, despite our many imperfections. Someone who understands us in every way possible. Someone who will stay with us, even when our actions seem like driving them away.  And someone who we can call “REAL Friend”.

We might not have lots of them, but having just one real friend is enough. They’re genuine people, and seldom do we find another one like them. I’ve read a quote before saying “True Friends are like diamonds, precious and rare” and I guess that speaks a lot about friends. Anyone can have acquaintances, colleagues, or friends, but not all can have TRUE Friends. They are that important.

But not everything in this world is permanent right? Things come up and sometimes our relationships with these special people in our lives are stained. We lose control of our emotions and this causes us to lose the important people too. There are many reasons why we lose our true friends. But I’d just focus on this one, because it’s related to the movie.

I guess we’re not new to the idea of falling in love. Thing is, when you fall for someone, anyone, you just feel it. But when it’s for a person you are close with, your true friend, best friend, close friend or whatever you call it, you do your best to avoid it. You deny the feelings because you don’t want to ruin your relationship with that person. And I can’t blame you for that. Sometimes it’s hard to have a romantic relationship with a friend because you’re risking your friendship. I’ve been in that situation and I tell you the risk is not worth it.

You might agree or disagree with me, but i stand for what I said. Romantic relationships are complicated, and the good thing about having a true friend is that when your relationship with that special someone falls, you still have good friends who would cheer you up. But that wouldn’t be the case if you have a relationship with your friend right?

And I’m not saying that Friends don’t fight each other. But unlike couples, friends eventually settle issues faster than them. I don’t think any romantic relationship can equal a genuine friendship. That’s why I won’t sacrifice friendship for petty feelings. Especially if those feelings are just temporary. You know, our emotions can be heightened by abrupt events. Just because you feel something, doesn’t necessarily mean it’s love(the romantic one).

Relationships come and go, but true friends stay. 

Don’t get me wrong though, I’m not saying that falling for a friend, or having a relationship with one is wrong. It’s not. But I’m telling you it would be hard. And when things go wrong or when they go the other way, You can’t simply put things back to how it used to be. Truth is, you can’t bring back your old relationship with that person. If you’re unlucky you would just be strangers or acquaintances. But if not, you would have a relationship that’s a lot stronger than the one before. I just wish you have the latter one. 

This article was published in Definitely Filipino: http://definitelyfilipino.com/blog/2012/05/08/just-friends/

(Source: littlemissinym)

It’s either we break up or we get married. -Marissa, Strangers Again

I first watched Wong Fu Productions’ Strangers Again last Summer of 2011 and I must say this line was the one that struck me the most (until now). Somehow it made me realize how simple things are in relationships. It’s either you guys break up or you get married. But is it really that simple?

Every one will say, “I don’t want to break up with my boyfriend/girlfriend” I mean, who would do such thing? If you just want to break up with your boyfriend/girlfriend then why did you date him/her in the first place?  But if you won’t break up with him/her, are you ready to say I do to that person? Are you ready to commit to that person for the rest of your life?

Sometimes that’s what makes things complicated, our thoughts of the future. Our thoughts of what will be, and what is supposed to happen. Whenever we think of our future it’s either we get excited or we get scared. Excited with the thought that you will soon start your life with the person you love, and Scared with the thought that you are not ready for what is in store for you and your other half. Being scared is not good, and being excited? It isn’t a good thing either. Most of us think that whatever we feel now would last forever, but sometimes it won’t. If you rush things, you might regret it. If you’re too scared to try things, you might miss out on what is in store for you.

So what is really my point here? My point is, relationships (romantic ones) in general are not bad for us. It’s our way of interacting with someone special, sharing our feelings and being open to that person. It’s like having this bond, a connection, that may not necessarily be understood by others, but to both of you it makes perfect sense. It’s like he/she is your unicorn (how Philip Wang described the girl) an unbelievable, crazy, special, almost perfect girl/boy you thought could never exist. I can write forever, but I think you get the point. Relationships are fun, but it’s not always supposed to be like that. If you’re not ready for that relationship, then don’t enter one. It will further complicate things. Trust me. But when you are ready to have one, you must be prepared of what’s going to happen next. Be it good or bad. You must be prepared for anything because committing to someone does involve great risks. If things get better, go for it. If things don’t, then maybe you weren’t meant to be after all. You’ll be happy, you’ll get hurt. But at the end of the day, you just have two choices: It’s either you break up or get married.

Just be prepared. It’s for your own good.

This article was published in Definitely Filipino: http://definitelyfilipino.com/blog/2012/05/08/caution-relationships/

(Source: littlemissinym)