Reality check.

For the longest time, we were made to believe that if we put our heart in it, we can conquer everything and get the things we want.

Fact: We can’t.

Sometimes, having the heart and desire for something does not guarantee that you can have it. Sometimes you still need a little luck in order to get the things that you want. The heart can take us to somewhere, but sometimes it cannot suffice for other elements that are required to get your goals. I believe in moving mountains and dreaming big, but I also believe in fate and destiny. And sometimes, the things we want are not the things that are destined for us to have. Sometimes the things we want to accomplish does not coincide with our fate. I’m not writing this to crush your hopes and break your spirit, I’m saying this to put you back to reality. Yes our dreams, even the big ones, can be achieved. But we cannot focus in just achieving it. We have to claim it. We have to use our hearts, our minds, our body- everything, just to get what we want. But even if we put everything in, we should prepare for all possible outcomes. And that includes failing and not getting what we’ve worked hard for. Just be realistic. And just be resilient. If you are not destined to achieve this one goal, chances are, you’re fate lies in another one. 

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I would like to believe that out there exists a parallel universe wherein we all have our counterparts. Though I don’t have any scientific basis to prove my point (I don’t think there’s any), I just like the idea that maybe someone out there is also thinking of me and perhaps debating about my existence. Maybe in that universe, we all have found the right person for us and that maybe we’re already living the big dream that we’ve all wanted in this universe. Whatever exists in that universe, will soon exist in our world. The world is slowly conspiring for the right time and right place for us to meet the right person. The people whom we are bound to share our future and live our biggest dreams with. I believe kismet has its way of letting people meet. Though it sounds a little demented, I believe that whatever hopes I have for my future is partially influenced by my what is happening in a parallel universe.  

The world is full of wonders. And even with the advent of technology, I know that there are still things that cannot be explained by science. But even if it’s not explainable by any rational thinking, I still believe that the parallel universe exists. Perhaps not in the bigger picture, but in my heart. And I find comfort into thinking that I have this little world of mine where everything is better and anything is possible. It may sound a little twisted, but the world is already twisted on its own and yet we still live in it.

The art of dealing with pain.

Of the billions and millions of people roaming around this planet that we call Earth, there would be a lot of people who would try to tear you apart. They will break you and crush you and torment you for all they care. You will get hurt, and you will feel pain- a great amount of pain from people who may or may not matter that much. Selfish people exist, and yes, we do not live in a perfect world.

If it hasn’t sunk in to you yet or you just want to get a repeated dose of reality, then here: WE ARE ALL DOOMED TO LIVE A LIFE OF NEVER ENDING TRIALS AND DEVASTATING CHANGES BECAUSE THE WORLD IS IMPERFECT AND IT’S DEFINITELY NOT FAIR. The world is filled with cruel people. Crueler than you could ever imagine. And in the billions existing, only a thousand would comprise the ones who want to bring you down.

But do you really think they’re important? Do you think every single person of the one thousand people would really be able to inflict that much pain to you? And do you really think you would carry that same amount of pain forever?

No.

I don’t think so. Because in that one thousand, only a hundred or may be a fewer would matter. And only a few would last for a reasonable amount of time.

Pain is inevitable. It’s all around us. Just like what I’ve said, the world is an imperfect place. But then again, we get to choose who inflicts the greatest pain in our lives. If a stranger calls you ugly, you will not bother that much. But if someone special tells you that, for sure, you will feel heartbroken. Same scenario, different people, different degree of pain. Because if someone really does matter, then we would really be affected by what they say or do. 

Truth betold: We have a say on who can hurt us and who would hurt us more. 

The world is an imperfect place filled with imperfect people creating imperfect scenarios just to give someone an imperfect life. And that’s enough reason for you to fall apart. But then we are the masters of our life. And we get to have a say on who matters and who doesn’t. If those imperfect people are causing you unreasonable pain, then leave them.

Someone who recently got his heart broken asked me, “Until when will I feel this pain, when will i stop crying?”

My answer was simple: Until you tell yourself to suck it up and carry on. 

You can never stop people from hurting you. And you can never stop yourself from feeling the pain that you’re supposed to feel. But you can always choose who would hurt you and until when you would feel hurt. Because we are the masters of our lives, and we have the power to choose the things that would count.

Despite the world’s imperfections, there would still be those who are happy inhabiting it. Despite the many trials one encounters, there would still be those who would rise up to be as glorious and triumphant. Yes, You can argue that they might be happy people by nature or they were born strong and destined to be great.

But I say, they have just mastered the art of dealing with pain.

Forever is not a promise that you should make, it’s something you act on. We keep on blaming circumstances for broken promises of forever, but we seldom think of our own shortcomings. We didn’t make our forever work, that’s why it ended. Forever is happening right now. And if people will try harder, it can definitely last long. It could definitely take eternity. 

Forever is not a promise that you should make, it’s something you act on. We keep on blaming circumstances for broken promises of forever, but we seldom think of our own shortcomings. We didn’t make our forever work, that’s why it ended. Forever is happening right now. And if people will try harder, it can definitely last long. It could definitely take eternity. 

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The thing about remembering the past is that you get to think of the what if’s that could have made a total difference.

Now is not the right time for anything. My mind is filled with what-if’s and if i don’t rest now, I’m not sure if I could sleep for the rest of the night. I’ve always said that I don’t regret any decision I made.But then again, things aren’t absolute. Things will never be absolute. And as long as I continue my life, I know that my past will continue to follow me, reminding me of the things that I am missing now.

You’re my only real friend, Let’s not ruin it. -Sally, The Art Of Getting By

This one’s a line from the movie we watched yesterday, The Art of Getting By. I don’t want to spoil the story (in case you haven’t watch it yet) so I’ll just focus on this line by Sally Howe. Looking at a boy-girl friendship.

Perhaps everyone of us has that one friend whom we can completely trust and be comfortable with. Someone we can talk to about anything, be it personal issues or just normal chit chats. Someone who accepts us, despite our many imperfections. Someone who understands us in every way possible. Someone who will stay with us, even when our actions seem like driving them away.  And someone who we can call “REAL Friend”.

We might not have lots of them, but having just one real friend is enough. They’re genuine people, and seldom do we find another one like them. I’ve read a quote before saying “True Friends are like diamonds, precious and rare” and I guess that speaks a lot about friends. Anyone can have acquaintances, colleagues, or friends, but not all can have TRUE Friends. They are that important.

But not everything in this world is permanent right? Things come up and sometimes our relationships with these special people in our lives are stained. We lose control of our emotions and this causes us to lose the important people too. There are many reasons why we lose our true friends. But I’d just focus on this one, because it’s related to the movie.

I guess we’re not new to the idea of falling in love. Thing is, when you fall for someone, anyone, you just feel it. But when it’s for a person you are close with, your true friend, best friend, close friend or whatever you call it, you do your best to avoid it. You deny the feelings because you don’t want to ruin your relationship with that person. And I can’t blame you for that. Sometimes it’s hard to have a romantic relationship with a friend because you’re risking your friendship. I’ve been in that situation and I tell you the risk is not worth it.

You might agree or disagree with me, but i stand for what I said. Romantic relationships are complicated, and the good thing about having a true friend is that when your relationship with that special someone falls, you still have good friends who would cheer you up. But that wouldn’t be the case if you have a relationship with your friend right?

And I’m not saying that Friends don’t fight each other. But unlike couples, friends eventually settle issues faster than them. I don’t think any romantic relationship can equal a genuine friendship. That’s why I won’t sacrifice friendship for petty feelings. Especially if those feelings are just temporary. You know, our emotions can be heightened by abrupt events. Just because you feel something, doesn’t necessarily mean it’s love(the romantic one).

Relationships come and go, but true friends stay. 

Don’t get me wrong though, I’m not saying that falling for a friend, or having a relationship with one is wrong. It’s not. But I’m telling you it would be hard. And when things go wrong or when they go the other way, You can’t simply put things back to how it used to be. Truth is, you can’t bring back your old relationship with that person. If you’re unlucky you would just be strangers or acquaintances. But if not, you would have a relationship that’s a lot stronger than the one before. I just wish you have the latter one. 

This article was published in Definitely Filipino: http://definitelyfilipino.com/blog/2012/05/08/just-friends/

(Source: littlemissinym)

"Things aren’t always going to be fair in the real world, that’s just the way it is but for the most part you get what you give. Let me ask you all a question. What’s worse: not getting everything you wished for or getting it but finding out it’s not enough? The rest of your life is being shaped right now with the dreams you chase, the choices you make and the person you decide to be. The rest of your life is a long time and the rest of your life starts right now."
— Haley James Scott, One Tree Hill Season 5