Reality check.

For the longest time, we were made to believe that if we put our heart in it, we can conquer everything and get the things we want.

Fact: We can’t.

Sometimes, having the heart and desire for something does not guarantee that you can have it. Sometimes you still need a little luck in order to get the things that you want. The heart can take us to somewhere, but sometimes it cannot suffice for other elements that are required to get your goals. I believe in moving mountains and dreaming big, but I also believe in fate and destiny. And sometimes, the things we want are not the things that are destined for us to have. Sometimes the things we want to accomplish does not coincide with our fate. I’m not writing this to crush your hopes and break your spirit, I’m saying this to put you back to reality. Yes our dreams, even the big ones, can be achieved. But we cannot focus in just achieving it. We have to claim it. We have to use our hearts, our minds, our body- everything, just to get what we want. But even if we put everything in, we should prepare for all possible outcomes. And that includes failing and not getting what we’ve worked hard for. Just be realistic. And just be resilient. If you are not destined to achieve this one goal, chances are, you’re fate lies in another one. 

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I would like to believe that out there exists a parallel universe wherein we all have our counterparts. Though I don’t have any scientific basis to prove my point (I don’t think there’s any), I just like the idea that maybe someone out there is also thinking of me and perhaps debating about my existence. Maybe in that universe, we all have found the right person for us and that maybe we’re already living the big dream that we’ve all wanted in this universe. Whatever exists in that universe, will soon exist in our world. The world is slowly conspiring for the right time and right place for us to meet the right person. The people whom we are bound to share our future and live our biggest dreams with. I believe kismet has its way of letting people meet. Though it sounds a little demented, I believe that whatever hopes I have for my future is partially influenced by my what is happening in a parallel universe.  

The world is full of wonders. And even with the advent of technology, I know that there are still things that cannot be explained by science. But even if it’s not explainable by any rational thinking, I still believe that the parallel universe exists. Perhaps not in the bigger picture, but in my heart. And I find comfort into thinking that I have this little world of mine where everything is better and anything is possible. It may sound a little twisted, but the world is already twisted on its own and yet we still live in it.

The art of dealing with pain.

Of the billions and millions of people roaming around this planet that we call Earth, there would be a lot of people who would try to tear you apart. They will break you and crush you and torment you for all they care. You will get hurt, and you will feel pain- a great amount of pain from people who may or may not matter that much. Selfish people exist, and yes, we do not live in a perfect world.

If it hasn’t sunk in to you yet or you just want to get a repeated dose of reality, then here: WE ARE ALL DOOMED TO LIVE A LIFE OF NEVER ENDING TRIALS AND DEVASTATING CHANGES BECAUSE THE WORLD IS IMPERFECT AND IT’S DEFINITELY NOT FAIR. The world is filled with cruel people. Crueler than you could ever imagine. And in the billions existing, only a thousand would comprise the ones who want to bring you down.

But do you really think they’re important? Do you think every single person of the one thousand people would really be able to inflict that much pain to you? And do you really think you would carry that same amount of pain forever?

No.

I don’t think so. Because in that one thousand, only a hundred or may be a fewer would matter. And only a few would last for a reasonable amount of time.

Pain is inevitable. It’s all around us. Just like what I’ve said, the world is an imperfect place. But then again, we get to choose who inflicts the greatest pain in our lives. If a stranger calls you ugly, you will not bother that much. But if someone special tells you that, for sure, you will feel heartbroken. Same scenario, different people, different degree of pain. Because if someone really does matter, then we would really be affected by what they say or do. 

Truth betold: We have a say on who can hurt us and who would hurt us more. 

The world is an imperfect place filled with imperfect people creating imperfect scenarios just to give someone an imperfect life. And that’s enough reason for you to fall apart. But then we are the masters of our life. And we get to have a say on who matters and who doesn’t. If those imperfect people are causing you unreasonable pain, then leave them.

Someone who recently got his heart broken asked me, “Until when will I feel this pain, when will i stop crying?”

My answer was simple: Until you tell yourself to suck it up and carry on. 

You can never stop people from hurting you. And you can never stop yourself from feeling the pain that you’re supposed to feel. But you can always choose who would hurt you and until when you would feel hurt. Because we are the masters of our lives, and we have the power to choose the things that would count.

Despite the world’s imperfections, there would still be those who are happy inhabiting it. Despite the many trials one encounters, there would still be those who would rise up to be as glorious and triumphant. Yes, You can argue that they might be happy people by nature or they were born strong and destined to be great.

But I say, they have just mastered the art of dealing with pain.

Forever is not a promise that you should make, it’s something you act on. We keep on blaming circumstances for broken promises of forever, but we seldom think of our own shortcomings. We didn’t make our forever work, that’s why it ended. Forever is happening right now. And if people will try harder, it can definitely last long. It could definitely take eternity. 

Forever is not a promise that you should make, it’s something you act on. We keep on blaming circumstances for broken promises of forever, but we seldom think of our own shortcomings. We didn’t make our forever work, that’s why it ended. Forever is happening right now. And if people will try harder, it can definitely last long. It could definitely take eternity.